Sunday, November 17, 2013

How do I wear vintage 'now'?

Shopping for vintage can sometimes seem a bit daunting. Finding a piece that works with your wardrobe, wondering whether you'll really wear the pre-worn garment, and searching for styles that fit into the current trends in fashion are all issues that can arise... even when you're in love with what you've found. At the Ruff Life, we offer vintage pieces ranging from dresses with 50s silhouettes to 80s inspired business attire.

 But how do you put an outfit together that's 'in' now? If we look at the 2013-2014 autumn and winter lines of top designers like Bottega Veneta, Carven, Marc Jacobs, and Balenciaga (to name a few), we find that these couturiers are not only looking to the future for inspiration, but also returning their gaze to years gone by to reinvigorate their collections. This movement toward paying homage to the past in the fashion world is ever-increasing; some designers, like DKNY, Givenchy, and Prada, are even dusting off old patterns and silhouettes from past collections and sending them back onto the runway. 

Keeping this in mind, we can take a side-by-side look at the vintage pieces offered at the Ruff Life with the biggest trends for the current and upcoming season. From over-sized coats to pleated skirts, our vintage garments and accessories can give you the sophisticated, fashion-conscious look of major designer brands without the burden of spending hundreds or even thousands on a single item. 

1. Oversized Coats

Size matters this fall and winter! The bigger the coat, the more you'll start to resemble the runway looks seen in Paris, Milan, New York City. Pastels and bright colors are also on the rise even during the autumn and winter months. Just because it looks less than ideal outside, why should we have to look just as dreary?

Lanvin coat 
60s Swing Coat, $42; Necklace, $24


Mixing textures with fur or leather is a technique used by most designers for this season, especially with jackets and coats. You can get this Mulberry look by pairing our Pendleton jacket with a simple leather purse and heels.
                 
Mulberry textured coat with fur lining
Pendleton Fur-lined Coat, $86

2. Metallics

Remember the bright metallics from the early 2000s? Well, they're back! From silver to light blue, from dresses to winter coats, this brilliant little addition to a garment can add that wow factor you've been looking for without being too "flashy." It's a great alternative if you prefer a little shine to be-jeweled items. 

Marc Jacobs silver metallic suit 
Silver jumpsuit $15
Prada blue metallic winter coat
Ruff Life Vintage Lilli Ann metallic blue coat

3. Pleats  

Pleats are very popular, especially when it comes to skirts. Those clean lines, like the ones featured in this Jason Wu gown, add class to an already beautiful color. Our Mr. Chaus vintage dress echoes this trend while maintaining that 60s vintage feel with its elongated, knife-pleated neckline. Pair it with gold accents and a textured purse to finish off the look.

Jason Wu gown for Fall 2013
Mr. Chaus Vintage pleated dress, $26

4. Capes and Wraps 

To add a little something extra to your wardrobe, try a cape or a wrap. Either of these choices will add a little extra panache to the outfit you've got on. Here we can compare shape, not necessarily texture or design. However, our cape offers protection from the rain... something you don't see very often in this style. 

Chloe, gray cape 
Vintage rain cape at the Ruff Life 

Similar to the cape style, the wrap provides some extra coverage in the cooler months while giving you that Old Hollywood glamour. This white Celine dress below is an example of the wrap and its renewed presence in high fashion. Our blue vintage dress, with its subtle floral print and 50s silhouette, also features a matching wrap. 

Celine dress with matching wrap
Blue vintage dress with matching silk wrap
          

5. Texture 

In the fashion world, designers have been playing with the theme of texture and patterns. Fur (as we saw previously), leather, embroidery, checkered weaving... the possibilities are endless! So, what will you choose? Here are some examples of our looks that fit this description: 

Retro Bottega Veneta red wrap dress
Ruff Life woven red dress with front tie $34

To match this Tory Burch look, you can add patent leather pumps and black tights.

Tony Burch dress suit with
checkered fabric
Vintage pastel pink dress suit with
checkered weaving
                 
6. Bags and Purses: Texture and Geometry 
Following the accessories trends on the runway is interesting. For the most part, the accessories are following the same patterns as garments themselves. Texture, like the checkered weaving pictured above, is common. These bamboo purses, shown below, exemplify that mixture of texture we discussed before. The red has the checkered embroidery and the bamboo handle; it's oh-so-similar to this Bottega Veneta bag... and who is really going to know the difference, right?

Bottega Veneta woven purse 
Red Bamboo Purse $24 Red heels $18


Geometric shapes in purses is another theme you can see in the newly arrived and upcoming lines. We can compare our Ruff Life bags to one of the new Prada purses below.

Prada Black Lines Bag
Ruff Life vintage black leather purse
             
7. Neck scarves

A really fun way to spice up your wardrobe this fall and winter is the added touch of the neck scarf. With the possibility of wearing it so many different ways, it's a wonderful staple to have!

Miu Miu Neck Scarf
Leopard print silk neck scarf $6
                           
 -Ashley Davenport; Retail Assistant at the Ruff Life Lingerie & Vintage

Friday, November 15, 2013

Kegels and the 'God, I hope I don't sneeze' Problem

Aside from lingerie, we've been surprised to find one of our top-selling products is something not many women openly speak about, kegel balls.

 You may already be familiar with kegels, which strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. (See 'How to Do Kegels' below for more information on kegels.) The pelvic floor muscles can be weakened by pregnancy, childbirth, menopause, weight gain, aging and surgeries in this region. As the pelvic floor muscles weakens, orgasm become harder to achieve and, if achieved, less intense. Also, mild to moderate incontinence can occur, a.k.a 'I pee a little when I sneeze' and similar predicaments. Studies vary widely on the amount of women that will encounter this, but many suggest 30-60% of women will struggle with some urinary leakage in their life.

Okay, time for the good news: Kegels and kegel balls can prevent and/or treat these symptoms!



Most start by doing kegels and later move to kegel balls for stronger results. Kegel balls are weighted balls often connected with a silicone harness and strengthen these same muscles. When I began working out, I began by relying on exercise using my own body weight and moved to adding on extra weight as I became stronger. Similar theory with kegel balls, plus it helps to know where these muscles are and how to use them before shelling out money.

How to Do Kegels
If you haven't done kegels before, it is a fairly simple and discreet exercise. It is best to try while urinating to be sure you are tensing the correct muscles. If you tense and the flow of urine stops or slows, you have found the right muscles. Just tense these muscles anytime, and try varying speed and length of the muscle hold. For example, try holding the muscles for two seconds and then relax for two. Try holding for five and ten seconds and increasing repetitions (from 10 to 20) and sets (from 2 sets of 10 to 3 sets of 20). I would recommend doing these daily for a couple weeks before moving onto kegel balls.

 I still write 'Kegels' on my daily to-do list as a reminder, but my mind needs see to it on a list, if it is going to happen!

How to Use Kegel Balls
I would recommend beginning at home the first time, as you don't want to be stuffing them back up your vagina in the supermarket. They WILL probably slip out the first time. I inserted my Lelo Luna Beads Noir in just like a tampon and proceeded to get started on the dishes, while occasionally adjusting the beads. Begin standing up, and add in kegels to keep the balls from making their escape. I only had them in for about 15 minutes the first time, then moved to 30 the next week. I generally wear them about 3-4 times a week and can just walk around for a few hours doing errands with them in. I remove the balls in the restroom by simply pulling the cord.

Start using them for a couple minutes while do chores around the house. 

Lelo's Luna Beads come in Mini, Classic and Noir. Minis are supposedly for women under 30 who have never been pregnant, but I would recommend Classic size for anyone. If you have experienced intercourse without pain, I doubt Classic is going to be an issue. Classic also comes with 2 sets of differently weighted balls, so you can move up a size as you get more comfortable. Noir are smaller in diameter than the Classic but are have only have one set of weighted balls (same weight as Classic's heaviest).  Black is my favorite color, and honestly, that's why the Noir beads are my go-to.



Bit of warning: The weights in kegel balls are little weighted marbles that move freely inside of the balls. It is an interesting sensation. Once I could hold them in well, I jump around a bit and felt like I had a pinball machine inside my pelvis. It was not unpleasant in the slightest but also not an orgasmic sensation.

We have Luna Beads Classic and Noir in store now. If you have any questions, feel free to comment, tweet, e-mail, or swing by the shop.

XOXO,
Merry
Founder of The Ruff Life
@therufflifeokc
therufflifeokc@gmail.com


Saturday, November 2, 2013

Lingerie Photoshoot in the Plaza

 Photo by Mat Miller.
 Galaxy Robe, La Fee Verte $220  Anouk Bralette, Eberjey $42 Anouk Culotte, Eberjey $28
 Photo by Mat Miller. 
 Galaxy Robe, La Fee Verte $220  Anouk Bralette, Eberjey $42 Anouk Culotte, Eberjey $28
 Photo by Mat Miller. 
 Lady Godiva Robe, Eberjey $84 Lady Godiva Chemise, Eberjey $62 
 Photo by Mat Miller. Kitty Nip Soft Cup Bra, Lucy B. $32 Kitty Nip High Waist Panty, Lucy. B $28
 Photo by Mat Miller. Kitty Nip Soft Cup Bra, Lucy B. $32 Kitty Nip High Waist Panty, Lucy. B $28
 Photo by Mat Miller. Charlot Bra, Parfait $38 Charlot Bikini, Parfait $14
 Photo by Mat Miller. Charlot Bra, Parfait $38 Charlot Bikini, Parfait $14
 Photo by Mat Miller. LEFT: Femme Fatale Bra, Gossard $62 Femme Fatale , Gossard $25 RIGHT: Silk Maid Panty, LELO $52
 Photo by Mat Miller. TOP: Sinfully Yours Bra, Blush $42 Sinfully Yours Bikini, Blush $28 BOTTOM: Dentelle Balconnet Contour Bra, Elle Macpherson $65 Dentelle Thong, Elle Macpherson $24
 Photo by Mat Miller.
 Photo by Mat Miller. Kitty Nip Soft Cup Bra, Lucy B. $32 Kitty Nip High Waist Panty, Lucy. B $28
 Photo by Rob Bennett. FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: Lady Godiva Robe, Eberjey $84 Galaxy Robe, La Fee Verte $220 Kitty Nip Soft Cup Bra, Lucy B. $32 Kitty Nip High Waist Panty, Lucy. B $28
Behind the scenes photo by Rob Bennett. 
Kylie and photographer, Mat Miller.

 Photo by Rob Bennett. Jean romper, $18.
 Behind the scene shot by Rob Bennett. French Maid lingerie set by Lelo, Bralette $48 Panty $52 Apron $24. Seamed stockings, $12.
Photo by Rob Bennett.  Vintage beaded sweater, $18.
 Photo by Rob Bennett. 
LEFT: Femme Fatale Bra, Gossard $62 Femme Fatale , Gossard $25 RIGHT: Silk Maid Panty, LELO $52
 Photo by Rob Bennett.
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Photo by Mat Miller. 
MIDDLE: Pure Indulgence Robe, Blush $78 
BOTTOM: Gisele Pajama Set, Eberjey $88


Special thanks to Mat Miller, Rob Bennett, all our gorgeous models, Empire Slice House, 
Saints, Plaza Discount Store and the Plaza District.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Emphasize those ASS-ets: Top 10 Lingerie and Sexy Accessories for Every Body


Being intimate is best when we are confident, and ideally, we accept our bodies and are confident naked. That's ideal, but...there are days when cellulite shows up more or pre-period bloating occurs.
Here are some simple ways to use lingerie to play up your best and forget about anything else.

Play up what you love, and play down your concerns. 


Rhinestone corset, $52.

1. Corsets.
Highlights an hourglass figure. Adds curves. Flattens the stomach, while playing up chest, shoulders.


Gossard lace garter belt,$32.
2. Garter belts.
Draws attention to the length of legs by cutting the body horizontally. Hits at curves and accentuates them.
Seamed stockings in nude and black, $12.
3. Seamed stockings.
When paired with a garter belt and heels, legs will appear to last for days!
Blush retro-styled chemise, $88.
Blush chemise, $68.

4. Negligee.
Can hide the stomach or thighs, while playing up the chest.

La Fee Verte Galaxy Robe, $220.
5. Sexy robes.
Great for hiding the stomach, thighs or arms, while displaying cleavage and curves.

Ruffled panties, $14.
6. Ruffled bras and panties.
Great for adding curves if you are self-conscious of a small chest, hips or booty. 

Lucy B retro brief with garter straps, $48.
7. Retro briefs.
Hides the lower abs, while giving the perfect pin-up look. 
Gil Elgren pin-up. We've got a couple aprons left in store for $8.

8. Aprons.
Not technically lingerie, but I love recommending them. A pastel vintage apron coupled with bra and panty set is PERFECT for sweet pin-up boudoir sets, cooking an anniversary meal, or serving whipped cream off your chest.  Oh, and hides the stomach.
9. Heels.
3" or up. It's a rule amongst burlesque dancers, strippers, models, etc. Once heels are 3" or more, the legs look long, your butt lifts perfectly and there is a sashay to your walk.

10. A smile. Or a mischievous grin and a wink can work just as well. 

If you still feel uncomfortable, light some candles and have a glass of champagne!

Friday, October 25, 2013

Court says hooking ex-offenders up to machines and asking them to masturbate is invasive? Wow, that's like saying guys in Affliction shirts don't get laid as much as they claim!



 As a condition of probation, prisoners can agree to many stipulations, usually giving up certain rights for periods of time, such as travel, or going to meetings, doctors, etc. On October 3rd, the Second Circuit Court of Appeals handed down a decision forbidding "penile plethysmograph examination" requirements as a term of early release. The appellant in this case is David McLaurin, a convicted sex offender. Penile plethysmographs are increasingly used, not as evidence in trials, but to assess the likelihood of recidivism amongst sex offenders.

Penile Plethysmograph Examination station
Plethysmograph is a fancy sounding medical device that measures genital response to a pornographic stimulus. For men, a small noose (technicians refer to this as a "gauge") is placed around the penis. A cord connects this noose to a machine with registers increased "tumescence" to various images or videos. For women, a nub is placed two inches inside the vagina with cords attached to register increases in the vaginal tissue.  In order to accurately calibrate the machine and gauges, subjects may be required to masturbation before the examination begins.

At this point, you may being wondering "What the fuck? Who thinks of something like that?" or maybe, "Didn't I see that in Clockwork Orange?"

The penile plethysmograph was created in the 50s in Czechoslovakia to weed out homosexuals from the military. Since then, it has continued to be used by governments to seek out homosexuals and pedophiles.

The accuracy is, well, iffy. Genital response does not always indicate sexual desire. Many forms of emotions, including fear, anger and stress, can lead to genital changes. A 1996 study at the University of Georgia used penile plethysmography to study responses to homosexual pornography between two groups, homophobic men and non-homophobic men. Both groups responded with increased tumescence to heterosexual and lesbian pornography, but only the homophobic group responded to male homosexual porn. To be fair, the homophobic man's hatred may stem from his own struggles with sexuality, but this also suggests that many emotions are at play in human sexual response.

 Additionally, even if genital response indicates sexual desire, sexual desire does not mean sexual action. Example: A man may receive an erection when looking at Angelina Jolie, but that does not give much information about whether he will have sex with her.

I have only read about this being used on male sex offenders, but the "Guidelines for the Use of the Penile Plethysmograph" also include instructions for use on females, which requires penetration. Using such measures on women as a term of release could easily be compared to rape and would spark outrage. Why is coerced masturbation not as objectionable and rapey when used on men?

Using these exams as a condition of release seems to be just another way to shame sex offenders. With so many forces involved with an individual's ability to exhibit sexual desire and response and so little conclusive research regarding the accuracy of such exams, what is the redeeming value? The justice system, itself, becomes a sex offender when it requires an offender to masturbate on a leash as a condition of probation.

Friday, October 18, 2013

5 Steps to Getting Your Groove Back Post-Baby!

There's been some recent controversy about the Maria Kang "What's Your Excuse" campaign. If you aren't familiar, Kang is a 32 year old mother of three posed for the following photo, and the internet exploded. Some are calling her a hero, others say she is "fat-shaming."

Kudos, Kang, you have a ridiculous bod post-baby!

As a mother, I am familiar with the identity struggle that exists between mommy and "whoa, momma." The following steps are not about getting Kang's abs but just tips on transitioning out of the dreaded Fourth Trimester.

10. Do things for yourself. 
I waited TOO long to do things for myself. I wouldn't buy clothes for probably six months, because I was convinced I was going to lose 30 pounds. I actually did end up losing 30 pounds, which put me at 15 pounds under my pre-pregnancy weight!! The weight didn't start coming off until I started taking care of myself.
4 years ago at 8 months pregnant.


9. Schedule a date night and get dolled up. 
You probably don't remember the feeling of sleeping six or more consecutive hours... or what all the stains on your shirt are from, but more than likely deep-seated resentment toward your partner is rising.

My son is almost four, and I am still convinced, in order to avoid staying up all night, my husband begins faking sick every time my son coughs.
My two main men.
On date nights, I force myself out of yoga pants and into lipstick and a tight dress. Sipping on wine and discussing events outside of daily grudge is a great reminder that you are more than a mom.

8. It was sex that created that little godsend, so why should you act like you've never and will never have it?
Kids put things in perspective. If you're out of Children's Tylenol and have a son screaming in pain, you probably aren't making sure you've got your face on first.

 That said, is it already time for mom jeans and compression bras? Wear a pretty bra occasionally. Don't wear your pajamas out..unless they are a silk slip with combat boots and a cardigan. 
 
Post-baby and preforming burlesque.

2. On a similar note, even if you are too tired for sex, masturbate. 
 Seriously. Proven benefits for migraines, tension, stress, back pain, cramps, and, oddly enough, hiccups. Also, some studies suggest regular masturbation (or sexual activity) can help maintain or increase the desire for sex.

1. Be proud of those stretch marks. When you are exhausted, look at them and think "I grew a fucking person. I'm such a badass."
Oh, and if you ever wonder if you are a good mom, go to Wal-Mart late at night.
This little man deserves a happy mom.