Friday, February 21, 2014

Bra Fitting - More than just a number

I recommend getting a bra-fitting once a year (especially if you have had dramatic weight loss or a child), but how is it done? Well, that's easy enough to Google. Many people have seen the soft tape measure and know a measurement is taken under the bust and at the fullest bust point. I like to point out that this measurement provides a good starting point.

 I still measure at the store, or you can at home. Just get a tape measure (the soft kind, not metal, you're not building a shed here). If measuring at home, you will be most accurate in front of mirror, as all the measurements need to be taken with the tape parallel to the ground. Wrap it around the underbust. Round the number to the nearest whole inch. I generally prefer to round up at the half inch point.

If the underbust measurement is 35 inches or larger, your band size will be the closest whole even number. For example, 35 inches will be 36 band. 36 inches will be 36 band. 37 inches will likely be 38 band, but 36 may feel better in some brands or styles.


If the underbust measurement is under 35 inches, then it's a bit different. I'm not sure who created this shoddy measuring system, but if your curious, this is just how it's done. 34 inches, 36 band. 31 - 33 inches, 34 band. 28 - 30 inches, 32 band. Honestly, anything smaller than this and I would aim for a 30 band. You may be smaller, but unless you want to start making your own bras, it's going to be very difficult to find smaller band sizes. The Little Bra Company is one of the few available brands I can think of with 28 bands.

 Next measurement is taken at the fullest part of your breasts. Wrap the tape around your body parallel, find the measurement, and round to the nearest whole number. Subtract the underbust measurement (not calculated band size) from this number. For example, I measure 28 inches at my underbust and 34 at my fullest bust. 34 inches - 28 inches = 6 inches. Each inch is a lettered cup. 1 inch difference would be A, 2 inches B, 3 inches C, 4 inches D, 5 inches DD, 6 inches E.



*A note about the letters: The measurement I use are the most common, going from D, DD, E, F, G, H and so on, but some companies use DDD instead of E.

My bra size would then be 32E. Cool. Fun fact. However, I rarely like the fit of this measurement. The point is measuring gives a good starting point, but you also have to consider fit and style.

Bra fittings sound so definitive and concrete. Jeez, it must be since I have to do math. Anyone outside of a nudist colony knows different brands of clothes fit differently. Same with bras and panties. European brands are often a bit more snug, however the brand Gossard I find true to size in bras but have to move down a size in panties. In Kiss Me Deadly and Elle Macpherson, I prefer a 34DD. Just try a few brands on, and see what you like.

The below mentioned orb effect.
 Additionally, different styles fit differently. I'm not shy about admitting I've had a boob job. For me, that has meant bralettes still fit but differently. I find it disconcerting to see globe-like orbs floating with no support.  Prior to implants, I had a full cup size difference between lefty and righty. Because of that I only wore bras with contoured cups and generally opted for push-up bras or added a turkey cutlet to the smaller breast. The point is don't just try different brands, try different styles, too.

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Valentine's Gift Ideas: From Mild to Wild

With less than three weeks until the often-anticipated and sometimes-dreaded Valentine's Day arrives, most of us start thinking of gift ideas for a significant other, a close friend, or even ourselves (no shame in that, ladies and gentlemen...who doesn't love a good treat yoself box of chocolates, after all?). Even if we don't sell chocolates here at the Ruff Life Lingerie and Vintage, we have plenty of options for V-Day gifts whether you're looking for a sweet little something or a sexier vibe. Check these ideas out!

1. Booty Parlor "Dust Up" Kissable Body Shimmer (in Cocoa Bronze or Marshmallow Gold) $24

These little guys smell amazing. And they make your body shimmery and sexy paired with a lingerie set or your outfit for the day. Great for a significant other or a friend!

2.  Booty Parlor "Kissaholic" Aphrodisiac Plumping Lip Gloss $16

Absolutely wonderful lip glosses that taste delicious. Different shades and different flavors. Sexy AND cute option for a lover, yourself, or a friend. As irresistible as they'll make you look, you won't be able to make it through the holiday without a kiss.

3. Vintage Accessories: Hats, Shoes, Scarves

Great gift ideas for friends or family to show your love on V-Day! All reasonably priced with a uniqueness you won't find anywhere else.

4. Elle Macpherson "Cloud Swing" Bra and Thong Set, Bra: $60 Thong: $30


I think it's safe to say this set qualifies as both sweet and sexy. Purple and pink with lace...it really needs no introduction. 

5. Gossard VIP "Retrolution" Bra and Panty Set, Bra $54 Panty $26

 
Now we're getting into the sexier stuff. This Gossard VIP bra and panty set is incredibly sensual with its vintage pin-up feel. The undies are a flattering cut as well. Get 'em for yourself or for a lady lover... either way your Valentine's will be super sexy. 

6. LELO Pleasure Sets (40% off!) and Personal Massagers $27-$199
 We've got all the LELO you could ever dream of! It doesn't get any sexier than this. All LELO products are made with body-safe silicone, by the way... and some are even waterproof! Get the tools and you can make this Valentine's unforgettable. The possibilities are endless. ;) 


Come on in to the Ruff Life and check out our products for Valentine's! It's the perfect opportunity to support local business and show your friends or significant others that you love them (and their sexy assets!). And don't forget: every Wednesday, 10% of all proceeds go to YWCA to support victims of sexual assault and domestic abuse. 

--Ashley Davenport, Retail Assistant 

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Help Us Help Women in Oklahoma on Womens' Empowerment Wednesday! Starting this week!

According to DHS reports from last year, Oklahoma ranks 17th nationally for domestic violence. 28% of homeless families lacked shelter and necessities due to domestic violence, while 45% of victims are in the process of leaving their perpetrator. Our state is also considered far worse than the national average for incidences of rape and sexual assault with 35% more occurring in Oklahoma as compared to the 17% national average. Many startling statistics like these demonstrate the need for intervention to make our state a better place to live for women, men, and children alike.

The YWCA aims to do just that. Since 1907, the Oklahoma City chapter of YWCA has adhered to their philosophy that "all persons have the right to live without fear, abuse, oppression, and violence" by providing services and shelter to persons and survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking. In 2012, the YWCA aided 18, 545 individuals; 3,134 were helped directly, while 15,411 utilized crisis hotlines, prevention education programs, and outreach efforts. As a nonprofit organization, the YWCA offers services including a domestic violence hotline, emergency shelter for victims of domestic violence, education and support groups, economic empowerment programs, sexual assault advocacy, and transportation for victims.


With their renowned reputation and significant presence in our community, the Ruff Life Lingerie and Vintage wants to help in any way we can. After all, we represent the interests of women with our body positive image. So, this is where you, the customer, come in! The shop will, for the next couple of months as our own sort of New Years Resolution, donate 10% of all proceeds every Wednesday to the YWCA to increase their profits, thus improving their ability to aid suffering women in Oklahoma. Now you can help us help women in Oklahoma for Womens' Empowerment Wednesday, starting this week on Wednesday, January 15th.

Friday, January 10, 2014

Local Movements: More than a trend?

It's already 2014. I'm a little disappointed we don't all have flying cars by now, however it did make me wonder what will define this decade. When buying vintage for the shop, I can usually identify the decade immediately by the style: 20s with dropped-waist dresses, 30s/40s with bias cuts and butterfly sleeves, 50s with hourglass dresses and pointed bras, the waif mod figure of the 60s, the androgynous curves of flowy fabric and bell bottoms, followed by the neon shoulder pads of the 80s.

What are the markers of 00s/10s? To be sure, I am biased due to my location in the Plaza District, Oklahoma City's strip of all local artsy shops, but I believe local and community-based shopping has established itself as a stronger trend of the times than, say, velour tracksuits.

Fast Food Nation was published in 2001 and followed by a growth in organic food, localvores, and farm-to-table dining. Aside from being a modern muckraker of what's really in a $1 burger, the book posited that the globalization and monopoly of our food sources has resulted in environmental and economic harm. Enron filed for bankruptcy in late 2001 and exacerbated corporate distrust. In the following years, the economic recession found blame in examples of corporate greed, especially subprime mortgages.

Aside from a reaction to the recession, I would argue the rise of social media and blogging provided a massive global community but sacrificed the intimacy of face-to-face neighborly interaction.

Either factor alone could launch localism as a trend, but together the combination have resulted in what, hopefully, will become more change of lifestyle than trend. The influence of local movements on style has meant what is in is:

1) Vintage. It's perfect for the time. There is no new ecological footprint. Generally, it is purchased as a one-of-a-kind, unique items (perfect for establishing a memorable image for Facebook photos) usually from small businesses.


2) Locally screen-printed shirts. While it would be costly for small business owners to have their own cotton field, loom, etc, local screen-printing allows graphic designers and artists a chance to create branding for our own hometowns. In high school, I never imagined it would feel so cool to wear an 'Okie' shirt!

Top available at DNA Galleries, $28, online (dnagalleries.com or in store at 1709 NW 16th).

3) Boutiques. Stocked with unusual items, knowledgeable and caring staff, and run by small business owners (can't support the next Madoff at this income bracket!)



Saturday, December 21, 2013

Evolution of the Modern Bra

With over 30 different styles to choose from, an array of manufacturers, colors, and fabrics, the bra has become an essential, almost unquestionable element of getting dressed everyday for women all over the world. Unknown to most, however, is the bra's humble beginnings and its development over the years into a now $2.5 billion industry. For instance, did you know that women weren't wearing bras, but instead donned the corset, until the early 1900s? (That is, if you discount the bandeaux style 'bras' worn by the Ancient Greeks and Cretans.)

Following the "S-Bend" corset's entry into the undergarment market in the late 19th century, doctors and women alike began to voice concerns about the effect of the corset on the female body. Not only did these corsets over time cause deformed rib-cages, misplaced internal organs, fainting, and miscarriages, but they were f#%*ing uncomfortable to wear all day! How were women supposed to enter the workforce and engage in physical activity and sports like tennis, bicycling, etc.? It was time for a change.


Example of the S-Bend Corset of the 1800s

EARLY 1900s

And this is where the modern bra comes in. In the early 1900s, one of the first French couturiers, Paul Poiret, declared war on the corset. His new designs first loosened and lowered it, followed by ridding his models of corsets altogether! These new dress options offered the modern woman a newly liberated silhouette and created a growing demand for an undergarment that kept breasts in place.


Poiret's hobble skirt and harem pants styles


Though the invention of the modern bra cannot be attributed to one name, there are several names that stand out in the history of the bra. Mary Phelps Jacob is one of those names. Phelps Jacob was inspired one afternoon in 1913 while trying to find the right undergarment for a somewhat sheer evening gown she would wear later that evening. Sewing two handkerchiefs together and creating two straps from pink ribbon, the first patented "brassiere" was born. The other name often connected with the bra's invention is Charles De Bevoise, an entrepreneur in the early 1900s that offered a sort of "bandeau" brassiere that compressed the breasts to fit the boyishform of the Jazz Age 'flapper'.


Mary Phelps Jacobs' first bra design

 World War I also aided the bra industry. Most corsets were made with lots of fabric, steel, and other metals, materials coveted and rationed during wartime. Women were thus told by the US War Industries Board to purchase bras and the newly marketed girdles instead of corsets at the time. This saved 28,000 tons of metal!

1920s

During the 1920s, women preferred the boyishform silhouette we discussed earlier. It was a time of great transition for women; the suffragettes' movement was under way, women demanded rights not afforded to them in the past, and they denounced the corset's inhibition of movement and freedom. Bandeau bras were worn to flatten the breasts, creating that adolescent look that was desired at the time. Thin shoulder straps also created a need for the strapless bra, widely available by 1926.


Flapper girls in their skivvies


In 1927, Maidenform, one of the largest bra manufacturers of the time, created the first cup system. Cups were initially called "double support pockets," and they were sized from A to D. This was the beginning of bra customization. Many other manufacturers followed suit, as you can see below in the Warner advertisement.

Warner Corset Company's Alphabet Bra line modelled after Maidenform


1930s

Gone were the androgynous silhouettes of the early 1900s. Curves were back! Starting with Mae West's debut on screen as one of America's first sex symbols, bigger breasts became en vogue. Following closely in Mae's footsteps was Lana Turner, the original 'Sweater Girl.' As the up-lifted, separated, perkier look of breasts was popularized, bra manufacturers began producing molded rubber padding inserts for the bra to imitate the look of the busty starlets.

Miss Mae West
Lana Turner, the first sweater girl



An advertisement from the 1930s for removable padding in bras


1940s

Just as Mae West and Lana Turner, via Hollywood, changed society's perspective on the ideal female silhouette, so too did Jane Russell in her film "The Outlaw." Jane's new figure uplifted the breasts even more, and led to the invention of the Howard Hughes' "cantilever" bra that showcased cleavage with half the coverage of bras in the past. At the same time, during America's involvement in World War II, pin-up models wearing lingerie were a popular morale booster for troops abroad. The 1940s are also responsible for the invention of the adjustable strap...thank goodness!

Jane Russell in 'The Outlaw'
Pin up model from the 1940s in YANK magazine


 1950s

This era was an important one for the bra industry. In the early 50s, pointy breasts were still popular. In fact, the "bullet" shape, created by circular stitching in the cups, was one of the best sellers at the time. This stitching technique proved too difficult to recreate at home, so most women opted for purchasing the bra in a store unlike years before. The invention of the Wrapture "Inflatable Bra" can also be attributed to this era.

Circular stitching 'bullet' bra advertisement
Women demonstrating the inflatable bra of the 1950s






Later in the 1950s, the female silhouette idealized by society was influenced by the iconic Marilyn Monroe. The look of softer, rounder, and curvier breasts influenced bra fashion. With the introduction of Lycra by DuPont, bras were made more comfortable because the fabric could stretch while maintaining its soft shape. In 1958, Frederick Mellinger, a soldier newly returned from war, created his now-famous shop, Frederick's of Hollywood and introduced the first push-up bra (much simpler than an inflatable device one might say...).

Marilyn posing in a bikini

The corset also made a comeback in this period. Featured on pin-up girls in Playboy, it was not only fetishized by men, but it became a symbol of female power instead of the restrictive garment it once represented in the past.


The original playboy bunnies

 -Ashley Davenport; Retail Assistant at the Ruff Life Lingerie & Vintage








Christmas-Mother-Identity vs. Me

Christmas is just a few days away now. Ice is covering the branches. My kitchen is full of flour, chocolate chips, and vanilla, and the dining room has become a Santa workspace for wrapping and homemade decorations. My mother gifted me a collection of 175+ nutcrackers for our holiday theme this season, which out of guilt and a dash of resentment have been scattered around the house already. Our tree is up and decorated, however because of an overly thirsty puppy, it is already dying.

All of this serves as a reminder: Christmas is not simply a festive, loving season, but also for many mothers, an exercise in attempting to be everything to everyone, usually at the same time.

Not gaining weight in order to still feel sexy. Not feeling too sexy in order to attract the gossip of family members. Finding the perfect gifts, so acquaintances feels as though I truly know them.

 Oh, and as a mother, I am given approximately three weeks to endow my son with a sense of tradition, a giving spirit and love of family. We read about Curious George and Elmo's Christmas adventures after baking cookies and peanut brittle to give to his nana and pops. I even wake up at 3 am with new ideas for the perfect stocking stuffers. I don't think I ever sent Christmas cards until I had my son, now the cards come with photos and miniature scrapbooks. I have a daunting Pintrest list of crafts I should be doing (from creating our own signature hot cocoa mix complete with handcrafted labels to saving toilet paper rolls to create Santa and reindeer ornaments).  I like to believe I generally a good mom, but around Christmas, I turn into a checklist of Martha Stewart qualities.

Then... yesterday, an odd moment forced me to rethink Christmas-mother-identity vs. me.

 I received a Christmas card from Lelo, a vibrator company. Without thinking, I set it in our Christmas card wreath, an elaborate display of holiday self-importance, like a visual list of how many people think of us. I stopped to wonder, should I keep the vibrator card in with all the other family cards? Will this one day haunt my son? No, I don't think he notices but, still... In all my efforts to be the perfect mom for the holidays, I don't want to deny that a sensual self co-exists within the warm innocence I create for my child.

When I was pregnant and ordering 'virgin' drinks, I learned to embrace the sardonic eye roll, however now, I attempt to segregate the sensual self responsible for making me a parent in the first place. I am not suggesting I engage my 4 year old in spirited discussions about the use of contraceptives, but perhaps this year my Christmas gift to myself will be to embrace this particular contradiction in the same way I embrace all the rest of them, imperfectly.

Merry Christmas from The Ruff Life! 

Friday, November 29, 2013

Local Filmmaker teams up with The Ruff Life for Tease-O-Rama tribute!



Local filmmaker, Attila Gyula Balazs, and five lovely models created this tribute to the old Tease-O-Rama films. Most lingerie provided by The Ruff Life Lingerie, including ranges by Lucy B and Lelo and lots of seamed stockings.